talk-about-babies [part 3]
when your 'baby' goes to school ...
reading: "Bicara Kalbu: Baca doa pada ubun-ubun anak nyatakan harapan"
notes:
1) TALK to your children (that includes LISTENING and great patience eh? :)) - know their likes, dislikes, fears etc. - comfort them by talking to them not only when problems occur - create a free and healthy environment for communication in your family
2) 'Pujuk'/ Consoling skills - don't leave them in the 'dark' (negative feelings )
3) don't break their TRUST - when you leave them at school (or anywhere), makesure you'll be back to pick them up on time. our children trust us, don't waste it by undermining their little hopeful yet very observant hearts
4) DO NOT persuade them to do things (all the time) by buying them sweets or expensive toys - rewarding them for good deeds is encouragement but do not over-reward them >> they might end up misundertanding our intentions and being materialistic - try to make them understand why
5) be firm and consistent on rules and decisions, not only to them BUT TO YOURSELF FIRST - when they cry the minute you leave them at school (which will break your heart for the first few moments), remind yourself that it is for their own good and they'll get used to it. let them (and ourselves?) cry now rather than later >> when they're too old to be taught about being independent!
6) give them time to learn and adjust - they need it as much or more than us, and as every child is unique some might need more time than others
7) PRAY FOR THEIR SUCCESS - you're a MOM, and as Allah has blessed you with one of the greatest role in the world and your prayers are indeed special!
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Handzalah took his first few steps last night! He put up a show for his beloved guests :):). Guess he might stand and walk on his own at the same time as he has been attempting to do so these few days ... go anak ummi go! We'll walk to the park together, 'soon' inshaALlah :)
*thanks aKo for the article
reading: "Bicara Kalbu: Baca doa pada ubun-ubun anak nyatakan harapan"
notes:
1) TALK to your children (that includes LISTENING and great patience eh? :)) - know their likes, dislikes, fears etc. - comfort them by talking to them not only when problems occur - create a free and healthy environment for communication in your family
2) 'Pujuk'/ Consoling skills - don't leave them in the 'dark' (negative feelings )
3) don't break their TRUST - when you leave them at school (or anywhere), makesure you'll be back to pick them up on time. our children trust us, don't waste it by undermining their little hopeful yet very observant hearts
4) DO NOT persuade them to do things (all the time) by buying them sweets or expensive toys - rewarding them for good deeds is encouragement but do not over-reward them >> they might end up misundertanding our intentions and being materialistic - try to make them understand why
5) be firm and consistent on rules and decisions, not only to them BUT TO YOURSELF FIRST - when they cry the minute you leave them at school (which will break your heart for the first few moments), remind yourself that it is for their own good and they'll get used to it. let them (and ourselves?) cry now rather than later >> when they're too old to be taught about being independent!
6) give them time to learn and adjust - they need it as much or more than us, and as every child is unique some might need more time than others
7) PRAY FOR THEIR SUCCESS - you're a MOM, and as Allah has blessed you with one of the greatest role in the world and your prayers are indeed special!
-----
Handzalah took his first few steps last night! He put up a show for his beloved guests :):). Guess he might stand and walk on his own at the same time as he has been attempting to do so these few days ... go anak ummi go! We'll walk to the park together, 'soon' inshaALlah :)
*thanks aKo for the article
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